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Have You Found ‘The One’? The Fool-Proof List to Finding Your Significant Other

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With Valentine's Day around the corner and love in the air you may be wondering if the person you’re dating is right for you. To be sure you’ve found them, take a look at lifestyle expert Andrea Bain’s fool-proof list!

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1. You're happy.

Not the fake happiness you put on in front of your friends and family, it’s about true happiness without any insecurities, that starts with you. If you're relying on the person you're dating to make you happy it'll never happen.

2. You share the same values.

Knowing what's important to you in life is important and so is finding someone who shares the same values in a similar order. Values refers to where you stand on being dependable, faithful, caring and kind, leisure activities, humour, education, willingness to grow and change, honesty, family, lifestyle, interests, sex, etc.

If you're dating someone from a different cultural background you should have an open and honest discussion about what is really important to you.

3. You are yourself.

When you can be you're absolute 100 per cent authentic self at all times. You know you're with your match.

4. They are your biggest fan.

Not only do they inspire you to be your best but they inspire you to think more, do more and grow.

5. You laugh together.

The couple that laughs together stays together. They don’t have to be a stand-up comedian but if your partner can make you laugh more than they make you cry, you've got yourself a keeper.

6. Silence is comfortable.

There's lots of talk about having great communication but it's also important to be together in silence without it feeling awkward. Comfortable silence is when you can maintain silence with someone and enjoy their company without fidgeting or worrying about what they're thinking. Again, this has nothing to do with your girlfriend or boyfriend being chatty or not, it's more about the level of comfort you have with each other.

7. They still surprise you.

Spontaneity is the spice of life for a couple. It's easy to get into a routine but if he or she can bring that element of fun they are a keeper!

Just take a look at the facts; lack of spontaneity was at the top of the list of top 10 relationship gripes according to researcher David Brown from UKDating.com. Thirty-three per cent of the respondents said acts of spontaneity such as booking romantic trips, cooking favourite meals or bringing home a bouquet of flowers are all dead which lead to their disappointment with the relationship. And remember, both parties are equally responsible for bringing the spontaneity.

But what if it's time to pull the plug on your relationship? Andrea shares her top five deal breakers that you shouldn't ignore!

  1. You're always making excuses for their actions. No one is perfect but you should never have to defend his or her bad behaviour to other people.
  2. You're on the same page about having a family. That means that both of you want to have kids or both of you are completely okay with not having kids —no grey area!
  3. Your partner has a lack of respect for the way they treat you in public.
  4. He or she sees your family and friends as beneath them and always tries to separate you from them.
  5. They don’t trust you. Dating someone who wants to spend every waking moment with you may seem romantic at first but if your partner never wants to let you out of their sight because they think you're cheating on them, this is a deal breaker.

 

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