Sleepover

Episode six: Josis Moves Out

Basketball star Josis Thomas has earned a scholarship to attend Laurentian University. It is a dream opportunity but he’s worried about leaving behind his beloved Regent Park, making ends meet, fitting in and living up to all his expectations.

Josis Thomas

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Basketball star Josis Thomas is set to attend Laurentian University on a scholarship. It is a dream opportunity but he’s worried about leaving behind his beloved Regent Park, making ends meet, fitting in and living up to all his expectations. 3:10

While searching for strangers for our sleepover, I called several high schools, asking them to point me in the direction of an extraordinary teenager. That's how I met basketball star Josis Thomas. I can only imagine how odd it was for him, receiving a phone call from me, inviting him to a sleepover with complete strangers in a hotel room. Yet, from the get-go, Josis was up for the adventure.

His curiosity and open nature make him an incredible communicator with a wealth of deep and direct inner wisdom. Josis is a gifted basketball player, whose athletic abilities extend beyond the court. At nineteen, his unshakeable confidence and determination make for slam dunk insights that he's happy to share with others.

Josis was born and raised in Regent Park, one of the first housing projects in Canada. He lives in a tiny two-room apartment with his family. His mom fled the Congo during war and moved to Angola, where she fell in love with her neighbour, Josis's dad. Together they escaped another war and immigrated to Canada.

It can be challenging growing up in an environment affected by poverty and violence, but Josis loves his neighbourhood and the people in the community who inspire and support him. He knows his future and his heart lie in Regent Park.

A few days before our sleepover, Josis's phone got smashed, leaving us to communicate through a scattered trail of emails. I would send a message and Josis would borrow someone's mobile or hit up a pay phone to call me back. I wasn't sure if he'd show, but my worries were for naught.

Josis arrives at the hotel — a striking figure: 6'4", super stylish in a white T-shirt and red track pants, carrying his dear friend, a tiny little lizard named Ogojogo, his pet gecko!

Josis opens up about the problem he is facing. He landed a basketball scholarship at Laurentian University in Sudbury Ontario. It's a dream opportunity but it comes with the hard reality of having to leave home. He's not sure how he will make ends meet financially, he's uncertain of how he'll fit into Sudbury life, and he's worried about abandoning those he loves, like his younger brother, who without Josis's guidance might be led off the right path.

On top of all of that, Josis has set the bar high. His game plan is to go into nursing then dentistry, before returning to Regent Park in five years with a completed degree. This will require an intense regimen of studying and basketball, with little room for anything else. Will he be able to live up to all his expectations?

During this tumultuous rite of passage, Josis feels like a fish-out-of-water — or in this case, like a gecko-in a hotel room. Author Sheila Heti, Dr. Jon Fiddler and I prepare him as best we can by sharing our own early-adult tribulations.

Sook-Yin Lee

PHOTOS FROM THE EPISODE

Basketball star Josis Thomas has earned a dream scholarship but he’s worried about leaving behind his beloved Regent Park. (Adam Litovitz)
Okay Josis, aka Mr. Positive, it's time to share. (Adam Litovitz)
First, introduce us to you friend. (Adam Litovitz)
Sheila, Jon, meet Josis's gecko, Ogojogo. (Adam Litovitz)
Josis is getting ready to go to university. He's going to Sudbury, kilometres away from Regent Park. (Adam Litovitz)
What about moving away concerns you the most? (Adam Litovitz)
Josis is worried about leaving behind his community and fitting in at his new school. (Adam Litovitz)
Now that we have shared, let's get ready to go to sleep. (Adam Litovitz)
Jon looks ready to sleep. (Adam Litovitz)
Goodnight Josis. Goodnight Sheila. (Adam Litovitz)
Hopefully you've enjoyed the sleepover Josis. (Adam Litovitz)
Morning light means it is time to get up. (Adam Litovitz)
Did everyone sleep alright? (Adam Litovitz)
John gets ready for the day. (Adam Litovitz)
Sheila does some morning reading. (Adam Litovitz)
Josis is still waking up. (Adam Litovitz)
Time for one last heart to heart before the sleepover ends. (Adam Litovitz)
Before we go, it's group photo time! Sleepy smiles all around. (Adam Litovitz)

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