Out in the Open

The confusing emotions when a partner has a miscarriage

Karine Silverwoman and Patrick Stafford have both had partners who’ve experienced miscarriage. They reflect on trying -- and sometimes failing -- to provide good support.
Jay-Z's wife Beyoncé had a miscarriage before the birth of their daughter Blue Ivy. (Mario Anzuoni/Reuters)

Karine Silverwoman and Patrick Stafford both have partners who've experienced miscarriage. They tried to support them, but it wasn't always easy.

In both cases, their partners received more recognition of the losses than they did. And while Karine and Patrick understand why, they felt their own experiences were diminished.

They reflect on trying -- and sometimes failing -- to provide good support to their partners.

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