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How this former pickup artist is relearning what it means to be a 'real man'

Growing up, Harris O'Malley didn't feel like his lived up to the stereotype of a "real man". So in his 20s, he tried to change that by becoming a pickup artist. But eventually, he realized it was a destructive path. He speaks with Piya about what he's learned about taking pride in being a man during a time of strong gender politics.

Harris O'Malley used to be a womanizer before discovering that it led to feelings of emptiness

Harris O'Malley used to believe that part of being a 'real man' was learning how to pick up women at bars and clubs. (Submitted by Harris O'Malley)
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Growing up, Harris O'Malley didn't feel like his lived up to the stereotype of a "real man". So in his 20s, he tried to change that by becoming a pickup artist. But eventually, he realized it was a destructive path. He speaks with Piya about finding the balance in extremes and what he's learned about taking pride in being a man during a time of strong gender politics.


This story appears in the Out in the Open episode, "Point of Pride".

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