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Forgiveness is the only way to move on from drunk driving collision: father

Dwayne Foster lost his children to an impaired driver over thirty years ago. He says that the key to his healing was to forgive the driver. Listen to his interview with Checkup guest host Susan McReynolds.
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Dwayne Foster in Greenwood, B.C., was one of few callers who answered "yes" to our question of the day, "Are we making progress in the battle against drunk driving?" Foster lost his three children to an impaired driver 35 years ago; the fine for the driver at the time was $15. While he believes the legal system has improved since the time of his children's deaths, there is still progress to be made, Foster said. Sharing his story with Checkup guest host Susan McReynolds, he also highlighted the importance of forgiveness and faith.

Dwayne Foster called Checkup to share his story, losing his children to a driver impaired by marijuana. 4:04

SM: What's your story, Dwayne?

DF: In 1981, I lost my three children to an impaired driver. They were two, seven, and 11. We had an inquiry afterwards and the driver admitted to smoking marijuana, drinking, seeing the kids and veering towards them. The passenger in the car made a comment that "there's somebody on the road." And the driver said, "Well I'll teach them a lesson to be on the road." He swerved into the driveway and hit all three of them, decapitated the baby.

SM: How do you deal with what happened now?

DF: I'm a Roman Catholic and I really believe in our faith and if it wasn't for our faith, I would not be here today. I have forgiven the guy. Some people couldn't believe it, they're upset and mad at me, but I forgave the guy the day of the accident. That's the only way I was able to carry on. It took my wife several years before she could forgive him. But it was only after that, that she could move on. Before that, her life was a mess.

Dwayne Foster's and Susan McReynolds' comments have been edited and condensed. This online segment was prepared by Ilina Ghosh.

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