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I’ve Created A Parent Bucket List Of Things To Do With My Kid Before She Grows Up

Jun 26, 2018

I’m not a great organizer. I don’t have a vision board. I’ve never created a five-year plan. My sense of passing time is, to say the least, fuzzy. If you ask me when something happened, I’ll probably say five years ago. When in fact it was more like 15 years.

The one reliable marker of time I have is my kid. Life for me is measured in BD (before daughter) and AD (after daughter).

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And so even though I love to think I have all the time in the world to do the things I have dreamed to do with her; I’m realizing I don’t. There is a slim sum of years between the out-of-control toddler phase and the eye-rolling I-just-want-to-hang-out-with-my-friends stage for us parents to do stuff with our kids. So I’m making a list of what I want to experience with her before she’s all grown up. Some of the items are budget dependent, while others just take a little planning.

I hope it will inspire you to create your own.

My Bucket List:

  • Forget my fears of the bunny hill and take her skiing
  • Put her French immersion into action in a French-speaking place
  • See some of the world together
  • Swim in more local lakes
  • Go to a comedy show
  • Take a trip to Ireland to explore our family roots
  • Finally get her that dog she’s been whining about
  • Travel across Canada in a RV
  • See a Broadway play
  • Teach her how to make chicken soup
  • Create a photo album of her childhood
  • Redecorate her room
  • Go camping in a provincial park
  • Finish the basement for her playroom/friend hangout
  • Host a giant slumber party
  • Make a complicated cake together from scratch
  • Have a mother-daughter weekend away
  • Finish reading the Anne of Green Gables series together
  • Watch all my fave childhood movies with her
  • Take a bike riding day trip
  • Organize her art projects and precious mementos into a proper scrapbook
  • Hit the dance floor together at a wedding
  • Throw her a surprise party
  • Go snorkeling together in the ocean
  • Take her to a rock concert
  • Write a letter to her for when she’s grown-up
  • Explore our family tree
  • Go to a drive-in movie together

I know we won’t likely be able to do all of these. Some may remain a dream while others are already in the works. Life for me isn’t about checking off to-do lists — I have enough of those already! But I do like the idea organizing my thoughts and fantasies in one place and slowly transform these experiences from fantasy to reality.


Article Author Laura Mullin
Laura Mullin

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Laura Mullin is a published playwright and writer and the Co-Artistic Director of the award-winning company, Expect Theatre. She is also the Co-Host and Producer of PlayME, a podcast that transforms plays into audio dramas now on CBC. She has worked in theatre, film, and television and lives in Toronto with her writer/producer husband and pre-teen daughter. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram @expectlaura.

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