I Think It’s Important To Talk To Your Kids About Passing On To The Next World

Jul 16, 2019

Death is one of the most challenging topics for parents to discuss with their kids. How does one explain the concept of death in a way that is not scary or devastating? Some start out with simple conversations, while others turn to books

In Tia’s family, they rely on their spiritual traditions to help process their grief and feel connected. 

Tia believes that speaking about death to kids may be easier in her culture, because everyone will eventually meet the Creator some day, and that crossing over should not be feared, but embraced.

As seen in the video above, you can see Tia’s daughter takes pride in keeping her Gran’s memory alive by going to a special outdoor place, and speaking about her often.

Full transcript:

Tia (mother): “Kohen is really easy to love. She tells it like it is. She’s just a little wise beyond her years, you know. She thinks a lot deeper. She just has this thing where everyone loved her, and Gran was the same way. Like — she loved — she loved everyone.

I must have been a teenager when my Gran had gotten the idea to plant all of these trees. The circle very much represents the way that our family is just kind of rooted.”

Kohen (daughter): “We like to have fires to remember the ones who passed on, and to celebrate family traditions. I put down a rock once my Gram [sic] Granny died, and I remember it was this pink one.

It’s a happy thing to remember that that was her favourite rock.”

Tia: “So the tradition of the rock started with Kohen, and I think that in her seven-year-old mind what she experienced is something she is taking ownership of.

It’s important to talk to your kids about the next world, and I guess it’s a lot easier for us because our language talks about going to see the Creator, or passing on is a beautiful thing, and is not something that’s to be feared.

When Granny passed away, I think Kohen felt my grief, and my sadness. And I think she understood what an important role she played in my life.

And I think that’s why Kohen still tries to keep her memory alive by talking about her all the time. I think she’s doing it for me.”

Kohen: “My grandma, she is special to me. She is still in Skyworld because everybody remembers her.”

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