This Is What A Day Is Like If You’re A Recently Single, Stay-At-Home Dad

Aug 20, 2019

Whether you've experienced it first hand or have watched as friends or family go through it, you know — separation is hard.

Of course, separation is even harder when there are kids involved. That kind of change isn't easy for little ones, so how do you stay focused as a parent when you're going through such a transformative time?

Lindy Vopnfjord is a parent going through such a time. He's a musician and stay-at-home dad to Joni, 5, and Gus, 3. Lindy shares joint custody with his ex, but it wasn't that long ago that the two were together. He says that what keeps him going as a dad navigating a separation is his motto: "Life is beautiful."

When the kids are with him, Lindy keeps mornings light and fun — slipping in and out of French as he helps Joni pick a dress for the day, reacting in shock as all the pretend passengers hit the ceiling of Gus' toy airplane. There's also flipping of pancakes and slinging of porridge. Lindy enjoys cooking and play dates, so why not combine the two while waking up and getting ready for school?

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But tears can't always be avoided, especially when you have to put on all those layers to go outside — though that's long over with by the time they reach the schoolyard. 

Next it's back home for dad, some dinner prep and before Lindy knows it, the kids are back home and chanting for peanut butter sandwiches! But that's all in a day for this music-loving bunch, because sandwich prep leads to butter knives and spoons being used as instruments and soon the guitar is out for a family singalong.

The French comes back out around bedtime when Lindy showcases pyjamas as bold fashion choices to try to convince the kids to get into them. Then it's an attempt at a book before bed, but first it's some light sibling squabbling, a bumped head and a few tears. Then it's bed.

With the start of another day, the routine begins again. But this day isn't like the one before. Lindy won't be picking the kids up from school, because that's their mom's job on this day.

He'll see them on Saturday.

If you loved this look into the life of a Canadian parent, check out another video in our Through the Eyes Of series here.

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