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Canadian woman dying of cancer will be able to reunite with American fiancé

Canadian Danielle Larocque, who has terminal uterine cancer, will soon be reunited with her American fiance, Charles Emch. The couple had been separated by border restrictions put in place to stop the spread of COVID-19.

Despite rules allowing immediate family to enter Canada, many loved ones remain separated during pandemic

Canadian Danielle Larocque, right, has terminal cancer. Her one wish is to reunite with her American fiancé, Charles Emch, before it's too late. (submitted by Tara Vidosa)

American Charles Emch and his Canadian partner Danielle Larocque — who's dying of cancer — were separated by border restrictions due to COVID-19, but about nine hours after CBC News reported their story, they say they'll soon be reunited. 

Larocque, 67, has terminal uterine cancer and has been told she has less than a year to live. Her one wish was to reunite with her American fiancé before it was too late. "I really, really miss him," said Larocque, who lives in Ottawa. 

The couple doesn't have the typical required documentation to prove their common-law status that would allow Emch, who is 81 and lives in Pompano Beach, Fla., to come to Canada. So Larocque's family compiled evidence of the couple's relationship, including photos, a shared phone bill and a written history of their time together since 2015. 

On Monday, Emch showed up at the border with the documents, which included his quarantine plan and Larocque's medical records.

He said it was enough to convince a border office to allow him to enter Canada.

"I was elated," he said. "We have hopes that we are going to be able to spend some quality time together."

Emch will see Larocque in two weeks after he finishes his two-week quarantine at an Airbnb rental.

"It was a total roll of the dice," said Tara Vidosa, Larocque's daughter. "I really think [Emch] just got, like, a very down to earth, compassionate agent.

"Perhaps the agent saw the [CBC News] article this morning," she added.

Larocque and Emch didn't have documentation to show they were common law, so Larocque's family compiled evidence of the couple's relationship that Emch presented at the border Monday, when he was allowed to cross and is now quarantining. (submitted by Tara Vidosa)

The couple had been kept apart because of border restrictions implemented to help stop the spread of COVID-19. 

Canada has banned foreigners from entering the country for non-essential travel. On top of that, the U.S. land border is closed to Canadian visitors. Canadians can still fly to the U.S., but Larocque is unable to fly due to her ill health. 

The couple had daily Facetime calls, but wanted to be together in person. 

"It's important that I come now," said Emch, "because of how fragile her life is."

The common-law conundrum

The federal government recently revised its rules to allow foreigners to visit immediate family in Canada, including spouses and common-law partners.

But Larocque and Emch didn't believe they fit the criteria. 

Larocque's daughter, Tara Vidosa, right, is thrilled that her mother will soon be reunited with her fiancé, but says she wants the federal government to revise its rules so that more families separated by the closed Canadian border can be reunited. (Submitted by Tara Vidosa)

To qualify as common-law, couples must have lived together for at least one year and have documentation to prove it, such as a lease or mortgage agreement that shows a shared address.

Larocque and Emch said they've been together for five years, but have split their time between each of their own homes in Ottawa and Pompano Beach, so they don't have paperwork showing a shared residence. 

The couple did get engaged — by phone — earlier this month, but they can't get married until they're reunited. 

Fighting for a solution

Heartbroken and outraged by her mother's situation, Vidosa earlier this month contacted Larocque's MP, Liberal Marie-France Lalonde, requesting a special exemption for Emch to enter Canada.   

Lalonde told CBC News last week that she was trying to help the couple. 

"Unfortunately, this couple does not exactly fit the definition of ... common-law," she said. "I really would like to find a solution and I believe our government will try to find a solution."

But a spokesperson for Public Safety Minister Bill Blair gave no indication that the government was working on a solution. 

"Our hearts are with Ms. Larocque during this unimaginably difficult time," said the spokesperson in an email to CBC News last week. The email went on to explain that Canada's stringent travel restrictions are necessary "to keep Canadians safe."

Government reviewing immediate family definition

Vidosa is thrilled that Emch will soon be reunited with her mother, but says her work isn't done. That's because she wants the federal government to revise its rules so that more families separated by the closed Canadian border can be reunited.

"It's absolutely heartbreaking what's happening, so we're going to keep fighting the good fight."

Watch | Son and mother kept apart by U.S.-Canada border restrictions:

Families across the country have been divided by the unprecedented border closures. That's why many were relieved when restrictions were lifted for immediate family members in early June. But many are now shocked as they realize they still don't qualify. 2:06

The grassroots group Advocacy for Family Reunification at the Canadian Border — which includes hundreds of separated family members — has been lobbying the government since June to expand its immediate family exemptions to include all committed partners and adult children. Currently, only dependent children qualify. 

"Even as an adult child, if I was living in the states, I couldn't come see my mom in her last days," said Vidosa. "I would flip."

Earlier this month, CBC News reported the plight of American Timothy Martin House who lives in New York City. As an adult child, he can't cross the border to visit his sick, 85-year-old mother in Toronto.

"You should be by your mother's side at this stage, and I can't get over there," said Martin, 61.

The Public Health Agency of Canada told CBC News it's currently reviewing its definition of immediate family, while still keeping in mind the risks posed by international travel during the pandemic.

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Sophia Harris covers business and consumer news. Contact: sophia.harris@cbc.ca

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