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Crimes of the heart: Are you guilty of this bad breakup behaviour?

We're diving deep into common breakup behaviours. Are you guilty of committing these crimes of the heart?
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As the saying goes, breaking up is hard to do. Unfortunately, it's something we all go through in life. While we're cradling our tissue boxes and queuing up a crying playlist, we often lose sight of things and end up resorting to some bad breakup behaviour. We dove deep into some common breakup scenarios to see who in our audience is guilty of certain crimes of the heart. See how you shape up by answering the following questions:

Have you ever used a cliché to break up with someone? Guilty or not guilty?

Our verdict: There's nothing wrong with using a cliché if you don't want to hurt the other person's feelings. Phrases like 'It's not you, it's me' or 'I'm just not ready' are acceptable if it's a relatively new relationship. However, if this is a long-term relationship, know that this answer is not enough and that your former partner deserves a real explanation. It's the respectful thing to do!

Have you ever vilified an ex-lover or ex-friend? Guilty or not guilty?

Our verdict: As the First Lady of the United States said, "When they go low, we go high." Criticizing and acting petty says more about your lack of character than it does about your ex. Vilifying a former partner or friend is a sign that you haven't moved on. The best revenge is to live a great, happy life.

Have you ever drunk-dialled an ex (this includes drunk-texting, too)? Guilty or not guilty?

Our verdict: A lot of people seem to be guilty of this! People drunk-dial because, let's face it, when you've had a few, your confidence builds. After a couple cocktails, you might think it's the best idea to call up an ex to tell them what you really think of them or  you might even be calling to say you want to get back. While you may have confidence night of  just remember you're exes for a reason and try and think of how you will feel in the morning. 

Have you ever given false hope to an ex-lover or friend? Guilty or not guilty?

Our verdict: If you have ever given an ex false hope, you may be power tripping. But beware, because karma can come back to haunt you. If you know that this is not the right person for you, don't take advantage of their feelings. This just wastes their time AND yours — time that could be spent finding someone you're really crazy about.

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