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Love Lives Here

A nonfiction book by Amanda Jetté Knox.

Amanda Jetté Knox

All Amanda Jetté Knox ever wanted was to enjoy a stable life. She never knew her biological father, and while her mother and stepfather were loving parents, the situation was sometimes chaotic. At school, she was bullied mercilessly, and at the age of 14, she entered a counselling program for alcohol addiction and was successful. 

While still a teenager, she met the love of her life. They were wed at 20, and the first of three children followed shortly. Jetté Knox finally had the stability she craved — or so it seemed. Their middle child struggled with depression and avoided school. The author was unprepared when the child she knew as her son came out as transgender at the age of 11. Shocked, but knowing how important it was to support her daughter, Jetté Knox became an ardent advocate for trans rights.

But the story wasn't over. For many years, the author had coped with her spouse's moodiness, but that chronic unhappiness was taking a toll on their marriage. A little over a year after their child came out, her partner also came out as transgender. Knowing better than most what would lie ahead, Jetté Knox searched for positive examples of marriages surviving transition. When she found no role models, she determined that her family would become one. 

The shift was challenging, but slowly the family members noticed that they were becoming happier and more united. Told with remarkable candour and humourand full of insight into the challenges faced by trans people, Love Lives Here is a beautiful story of transition, frustration, support, acceptance, and, of course, love. (From Viking)

Love Lives Here is on the Canada Reads 2020 longlist. The final five books and their champions will be revealed on Jan. 22, 2020.

Amanda Jetté Knox is a writer, activist and public speaker who lives in Ottawa. Love Lives Here is her first book. She also blogs at The Maven of Mayhem.

From the book

She told me in the car.

Or rather, she didn't tell me. Because it's what wasn't said that gave it all away — the space between our words leaving a silence where you could almost hear our hearts break.

It's funny how much we remember about important moments. That night, a warm summer rain was tapping lightly against the car windows and I could smell the air conditioner as it worked overtime to push out the mugginess of early July. I could hear the splash of puddles as we made our way down the road toward our suburban neighbourhood. I remember how a bright-green grocery store sign lit up the car's interior as I turned and asked that one pivotal question, and how our ten-minute ride home ended up taking well over an hour.


From Love Lives Here by Amanda Jetté Knox ©2019. Published by Viking.

Interviews with Amanda Jetté Knox

She's at University of Ottawa as part of their Pride Week celebrations and she's at Christ Church Cathedral on October 27th as part of the Ottawa International Writersfest. 12:40
They met when they were teenagers. Then, after more than 20 years as a couple, one of them came out as transgender. This week, Zoe and Amanda Knox celebrate their 20th anniversary by renewing their vows — as wife and wife. 17:21
Amanda Jetté Knox supported both her child and her spouse when they came out as trans. In a new book, she gets real about what she's learned, and the mistakes she made along the way. 12:53
We speak to author Amanda Jetté Knox about her new best-selling book "Love Loves Here" - A Story Of Thriving In A Transgender Family based on her own life accounts. 13:09
Over the past few years, Amanda Jette Knox's partner and child both came out as trans, and she came out as queer. That's made her think a lot about what it means to be an ally. She tells Piya what she's learned about the value of mistakes and emotion in one's attempt to be an ally, both from the perspective of being one, and having allies. 10:06

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