A courageous account of one woman's unflinching and ultimately hopeful journey through sex and porn addiction.
A fixation on porn and orgasm, strings of failed relationships and serial hook-ups with strangers, inevitable blackouts to blunt the shame — these are not things we often hear women share publicly, and not with the candour, eloquence and introspection Erica Garza brings to Getting Off.
What sets this courageous and riveting account apart from your typical misery memoir is the absence of any precipitating trauma beyond the garden variety of hurt we've all had to endure in simply becoming a person — reckoning with family, learning to be social and integrating what it means to be sexual. Whatever tenor of violence or abuse Erica's life took on through her behaviour was fuelled by fear, guilt, self-loathing, self-pity, loneliness and the hopelessness those feelings brought on as she runs from one side of the world to the other in an effort to break her habits — from Los Angeles to Hawaii and South Asia, through the brothels of Bangkok and the yoga studios of Bali to disappointing stabs at therapy and twelve-steps back home.
In exploring the cultural taboos surrounding sex and porn from a female perspective, Garza offers a brave and necessary voice to our evolving conversations about addiction and the impact that Internet culture has had on us all. (From Simon & Schuster)