Anthony Weiner, Sexting and Social Mores


Anthony Weiner, a leading candidate for New York City mayor, has learned the hard way that technology can end up damaging a reputation. But does sexting to someone outside your relationship really constitute as cheating? Or are we falling victim to a gossipy, 21st century brand of prudishness.

As mentioned, here is the list of tips to safely and successfully sext a partner:

10 tips for safe and successful sexting -- Canadian Living

John Portmann - Religious Studies Professor at U of Virginia

Anthony Weiner admits to texting racy messages and sending explicit photos to as many as six to ten women. Three of those, after he'd already apologized for the behaviour to his wife and resigned from US Congress. To hear him tell it, no one is more upset about it than he is:

"These things that I did were wrong and I'm responsible for this behaviour that led us to be in this place. But in many ways things are not that much different than they were yesterday. This behaviour that I did was problematic to say the least ... destructive, to say the most. Caused many stresses and strains in my marriage. But I'm pleased and blessed that she has given me a second chance.

Anthony Weiner, NYC Mayoral Candidate

What happens inside a marriage is the business of husband and wife. The latest polls suggest New York voters aren't terribly impressed with this kind of behaviour in a candidate. Sexting is a sexual advance no doubt, but does it constitute cheating? Among relationship experts, there's some disagreement.

John Portmann teaches religious studies at the University of Virginia. And he's also the author of a book called In Defence of Sin. John Portmann was in London, England.

If a Wife Can Forgive, Can't We? By John Portmann — NY Times

Panel: Karen Ruskin / Trina Read

For more on whether sexting counts as infidelity, we were joined by two guests.

Karen Ruskin is a marriage and family therapist in Sharon, Massachusetts. She's written a book called Dr Karen's Marriage Manual which discusses the Anthony Weiner case.

And Trina Read is relationship columnist and the author of several books included Till Sex Do Us Part: Make Your Married Sex Irresistible. Trina Read was in Calgary.

News You Can Use: ABC Investigates Whether Sexting 'Really' 'Counts' as Cheating?' — Newsbusters

Safe and Successful Sexting Tips

We've been talking about whether sexting outside a committed relationship constitutes cheating. But plenty of couples these days sext and there are plenty of techniques. But if anyone asks, you didn't get them from us. They're from Canadian Living, actually. The magazine has compiled a list of tips to safely and successfully sext a partner. Here is the article.

This segment was produced by The Current's Vanessa Greco, Megan Griffith-Greene and Leif Zapf-Gijle.

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