Is courtship dead and gone or just evolving?


Courtship, friendship, text-ship ... Love in the Time of Cellular. Are you merely being friended or actually being seduced? A generation weaned on wiki thinks dating is digital but where's the love in that? Today we're asking if courtship is dead.

Panel: Kate Carraway / Shannon Tebb / Micah Toub

Don't call him. You gotta let that rubber band stretch. So he misses you enough so he says that girl was really cool. I'm gonna call her for Saturday night. You want him to call you by Wednesday, for Saturday. And if he calls your Thursday for Saturday. Say I'm sorry I'm busy but I'd love to see you Sunday. You do not call him, text him thank him nothing. You wait for him to engage you. Because you don't know if he's with another girl when you call and that's gonna make you feel like crap.

That's Patti Stanger, the television The Millionaire Matchmaker. She helps people find love with old-school lessons from dating handbooks such as "The Rules" ... you know, the ones where men pursue and woman play hard-to-get.

But as gender roles blur and communication shifts to texts and tweets, conventional attitudes about dating are fading. And that has left a lot of people confused about courtship.

Just ask Hannah Horvath, the central character in HBO's hit TV series Girls. We aired an excerpt from a scene in season one in which she confronts her sort-of-almost boyfriend Adam about the status of their relationship.

For their thoughts on the state of modern courtship on this Valentines Day, we were joined by three people.

Kate Carraway is a writer and relationship columnist at The Grid and The Globe and Mail. She was in London, Ontario.

Shannon Tebb is a matchmaker and dating expert who runs Shanny in the City, She was in Toronto.

And Micah Toub is the author of Growing Up Jung: Coming of Age as the Son of Two Shrinks. He is working on a book based on his time as the Globe and Mail's relationship columnist and he was in Toronto as well.

This segment was produced by The Current's Shannon Higgins and Pacinthe Mattar.

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