Want to get closer to your man? Communication expert Mike Mandel says women need to know the secrets that men keep—and want to share! Once you're in the know, you and yours can connect on a deeper, more intimate level.

Men are problem solvers.

We like to fix things! When women mention a problem to us, we assume it's because they want advice. This can backfire big time because women often don't actually want us to fix things, they just want a listening ear. If you want to vent, let us know that's the case so we can give you our full attention. Or throw us a problem that needs fixing right away, and we'll happily try to help you out.

Men don't understand hidden messages.

When she talks in glowing terms about the neighbour's new health club membership, we have no idea that what she's really saying is that she wants her man to lose 30 pounds. Say what you mean! Don't mince words. Be direct; your man will respond better, and you'll probably get what you need and want in a more timely fashion.

Men want to be heroes.

We want our women to feel as though we've come to their rescue and have helped out in an important way. But we need credit when we do something right. Whether it's fixing a broken window or installing a lightbulb, give us an opportunity to make your life easier and then say thank you. (We'll return the courtesy, too!)

Men shrink under negativity.

Too much pessimism, criticism and negativity will drag anyone down, and men are no exception. We don't need grand gestures of love, but a positive comment or a simple smile will make us happier and more loving. If things are getting a bit too heavy, we might try and escape to a place that is lighter and more fun; a woman would do the same. So it's important for everyone to remember respect and common courtesy even in tough times. Take a breather from the stress and share a laugh together.

Men are sentimental, too.

No matter how tough their exterior, all men have a soft, gooey centre. If a woman can connect to her man's sentimental side, the bond between the couple will grow stronger. Sometimes men will come right out and talk about things that made them happy as a child. Other times, you'll have to look for clues and ask questions. Either way, men don't always show this side freely, but it is there, and we secretly want our women to know about it and nurture its growth.

Relationship expert Mike Mandel is a trained psychotherapist, world-renowned hypnotist and jiu-jitsu expert. But he's learned his most important life lessons from his 30-year gig as husband to Heather.