Dr. Karyn Gordon works as a Marriage Cousellor, find out the advice she gives to common relationship complaints, so you and your partner don't find yourselves in her office seats!
"Play "Detective" - This is the advice I give to couples who say they lost the "spark"
Think of past success times when you've connected
What time was it? Where were you? How were you feeling?
Recreate it - be intentional.
"Look on the flip side" - This is the advice I give to couples who feel constantly irritated with one another
Remember that the very thing that we are often attracted to (i.e. someone being fun, care-free) when we're dating - will often be the very thing that drives us nuts when we're married - so lets remember that for every 'annoying' trait - there is something positive to it as well and its really important that we remind ourselves about those positive traits.
If you come home to a messy house, look on "the flip side". Don't be angry at your partner because the house is a mess, realize that a tidy house is important to you, and go to your partner and say, I am upset that the house is messy because a tidy house is important to me.... It will go over much better!
"Spell it Out" - This is the advice I give to couples who say their partner is no longer romantic
Realize that men and women are different so don't drop hints (hoping he will figure it out) - if you say you don't want a Valentines gift - expect he WONT get one.
Most men are coachable and want to please - but they are wired very differently from women so we need to speak their language.
The second most powerful line couples need to learn to say is "I need...".