Sunday November 12, 2017
'I love being single and I will continue to be single for the rest of my life'
more stories from this episode
- 'There's this ambient feeling that something is terribly, terribly awry': How we delegitimize single people
- She isn't looking for someone to 'complete her,' she just wants to share her life with someone
- Desperately seeking solitude: The upside of being alone
- Older, single and ready to mingle: the complicated reality of dating in your sixties
- Being single in a small community means your private life is public
- 'What, oh my gosh, you have herpes too!?': The highs and lows of dating with an STI
- Do you, Tallulah, take yourself to be your lawfully wedded wife?
- 'I love being single and I will continue to be single for the rest of my life'
- Full Episode
"I don't think you need to try out every single life alternative to know that the one you have is the one for you," says 64-year-old Bella DePaulo, who has never been a two.
In fact, later on in her academic career she switched from teaching and studying psychology to focusing on singledom as an area of research.
About being single, Bella says it's not "something that I got stuck with because I couldn't find someone or because I have issues."
"I love being single and I will continue to be single for the rest of my life."
Bella calls herself "single at heart" and describes it as a lifestyle that works for her. It's how she feels she can live her most meaningful life.
Part of what she loves about being single is the freedom, the solitude and the ability to spend time with the people she cares about "without having one person always around and always being the centre of my life."