Friday November 18, 2016
Staying together for the kids? Try a parenting marriage instead
more stories from this episode
- 'A new way of doing it,' how a divorced couple with children became next door neighbours
- Meet the California therapist who invented 'conscious uncoupling'
- Lisa Bryn Rundle never dreamed of a wedding, but after her partner left, she yearned for a fairy-tale divorce
- The reality of divorce in South Asian culture
- How getting a 'get' taught Aviva Rubin about the value of old rituals in modern divorce
- How have kid's books about divorce changed as its become more common?
- A family court judge calls divorce a 'public health crisis' that doesn't belong in the courts
- Staying together for the kids? Try a parenting marriage instead
- Full Episode
In 2007, therapist Susan Pease Gadoua was working with a couple who couldn't decide if they should break up or not, because they didn't want to harm their children. So Gadoua suggested they try staying in the same house and parenting together, but leading separate lives.
The new approach stuck and Gadoua continued to suggest it to couples she thought it would work for. She coined the term "parenting marriage" to describe this new way of being together.
"There are many cultures throughout history and across the world that do marriage differently. We made it up a long time ago — we can make it up again now."