Friday November 04, 2016
A family court judge calls divorce a 'public health crisis' that doesn't belong in the courts
more stories from this episode
- 'A new way of doing it,' how a divorced couple with children became next door neighbours
- Meet the California therapist who invented 'conscious uncoupling'
- Lisa Bryn Rundle never dreamed of a wedding, but after her partner left, she yearned for a fairy-tale divorce
- The reality of divorce in South Asian culture
- How getting a 'get' taught Aviva Rubin about the value of old rituals in modern divorce
- How have kid's books about divorce changed as its become more common?
- A family court judge calls divorce a 'public health crisis' that doesn't belong in the courts
- Staying together for the kids? Try a parenting marriage instead
- Full Episode
Ontario family court and criminal court judge Harvey Brownstone has a bench-eye view on thousands of families in the act of breaking apart. While Brownstone understands the need for courts in the process of divorce, he also knows that he is not qualified to deal with the emotional toll they have on a family.
Divorce, according to Brownstone, is not only a legal issue; it's also about the well-being of the kids. He goes as far to call it a public health crisis.
"Everyone agrees that the children are innocent in a breakup...the least we can do for them is to insolate them from the conflict...they don't get to have another childhood."
Too often, he sees parents looking for revenge rather than trying to find a way to make the process easy on the kids.
"It's paramount that parents going through a separation remember that they have to — if they really love their children — figure out a way to love their children more than they dislike each other."