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Hey, Moms: Here’s How One Pair of Jeans Can Change Your Life

Mar 29, 2017

There's a serious void in my life right now.

What's missing?

One pair of flawlessly fitted jeans. This may sound terribly material but I promise you, it's not.

Years ago, when I was leading mom-and-baby fitness classes, I spoke about this all the time. The importance of having one great outfit that fits well right now and in which you feel fantastic. Not the pre-baby jeans that may fit again one day, not the actual boyfriend jeans that you've adopted as your own, and not the work trousers from a previous life.

Argh, those phrases: "bounce back" and "get your body back". Unless you're a time traveller, there's no going back.

We all did it, myself included. Caught in a masochistic standoff with time, we refused to buy jeans that fit our new sizes, shapes and lifestyles. Tops, maybe. Shoes, definitely. But jeans? Nuh-uh. Instead, we lingered in the comfort of maternity jeans, or bullied our way into pre-baby bottoms with denial and disregard. This fluffier stage was temporary, after all. We all expected to soon "bounce back" to our regular waist-to-hip ratios.

Argh, those phrases: "bounce back" and "get your body back". Unless you're a time traveller, there's no going back. As mothers, our bodies and/or lives have shifted. Denying ourselves new denim won't preserve whatever it is we're clinging to.
I'm sure there's an intriguing psychological angle to it all, but a psychologist I am not.

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And though a stylist I am not, I did pick up this invaluable tip from a savvy boutique owner: when it comes to denim, most new mothers fare well with a properly fitted high waist, dark wash, straight leg jean that has a little bit of stretch. And because denim is so versatile, one pair can be dressed down for casual daily activities and dressed up for the rare non-mom occasion.

I'm not suggesting we break the bank on a brand new wardrobe while our bodies and lives are still shifting. I'm simply suggesting that we allow ourselves one outfit that helps us feel fantastic, at a time when, for a slew of reasons, we often don't feel like our best selves. I kid you not, my first year of motherhood was changed by a pair of yoga jeans.

I kid you not, my first year of motherhood was changed by a pair of yoga jeans.

Though I'm no longer a new mother, I'm faced with the same void in my closet. Seven years later, my waistline and lifestyle are still changing. I lost weight, gained weight, life got busy, different needs took priority and I somehow just never made it to the mall. So here I am with a gorgeous pair of size 26 James Jeans' that are too small, a stylish pair of high-waist button jeans two sizes too big, and nothing in between.

Frustration sets in when I get called to venture out of my usual gym, motherhood and work routines. So why torture myself, right? If one great pair of jeans will fill a gap in my wardrobe and help me put my best foot forward, then one great new pair of jeans it is. Problem solved.

Article Author Debbie King
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Debbie King (aka SUPAFITMAMA) is a Toronto-based masters athlete, influencer, freelance writer, wife and mother of one. At age 42, she is training toward her goal of becoming a 2020 World Masters Athletics track and field champion. In her work as a writer and influencer, Debbie creates powerful content and connections in female fitness, sport, wellness and culture. Body positivity, inclusion and representation are strong themes throughout. As a regular contributor for CBC Parents, she explores a range of healthy living topics for individuals and Canadian families. Follow her journey at supafitmama.com and on Instagram and Twitter.

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