Top of Your Game: Ask Mark Tewksbury
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Tuesday, March 31, 2009 | 11:48 AM ET
Mark Tewksbury knows what it means to be a champion.

He is the star athlete who burst out of the water at the Barcelona Olympics following the come-from-behind victory in the 100 meter backstroke; an Olympic Champion with gold, silver and bronze medals from Olympic competitions in 1988 and 1992. See him win the gold in our archives: 1992 documentary.
Now, he's offering us an 8-week program of inspirational tools to keep you on top of your game.
Every week he'll take your questions on getting to the top of your game.
In the first week Mark tackles what it means to be a champion. From understanding the power of the question, to knowing what to ask and when.
Leave your questions for Mark on week one below.
This discussion is now Open. Submit your questions.
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Izabella Karapetyan
Toronto
I have graduated from French University in Armenia/Universite Jean Moulin Lyon 3 with Master's degree in law.
I do realize that this is not possible to work as a lawyer in Canada now, but at the same time i think, that there must be some fast track courses for foreign lawyers.
What options do i have to work as a lawyer?
Sofiane Khelkhal
Hello Mr. Tewksbury
My name is Sofiane, and i am turning 20 next Saturday. I truly feel and see that i am not attaining my full potential when it comes to anything i do, i feel i can do much more if I were a little more serious.
I have asked my self questions many time..maybe i am asking the wrong questions but i know i am being completely honest.
Hope you can share with me some of your wisdom.
Thank your for your time, and i think what you are doing is great.
Mark Tewksbury: Sofiane Great to hear that you are asking yourself questions, and that you are able to be honest with your answers. These are important skills to have. The reason that 'ask yourself questions' is the first trait, is because it is a fundamental champion skill set that will be applied in every trait as we go forward over the next eight weeks.
You mentioned that you might be asking the wrong questions. Remember that all you have to do is change the line of questioning if you are not getting the answer you are looking for. A good starting point based on your email would be to start with the word 'serious.' Ask yourself, "What do I mean by serious?" "If I were more serious, what would reaching my potential be? Reach my full potential in what?" Keep asking different questions until you get some clarity.
As this series continues, you will find all kinds of different questions. It is great that you are already asking!
Thanks for watching.
Mark
ML
Ottawa
How do you find the courage to leave a stable and well-paying career to pursue something more fulfilling when you are not even quite sure what it is?
Mark Tewksbury: Great question! It is not unusual at some point to question what we are doing, and if we are connected to that in a way that is fulfilling. The skill of asking yourself the right question at the right time will be important here.
If you are feeling lost in terms of what would be fulfilling, you might want to start with the more soul searching questions. "What am I doing? Why am I doing it? If I could do anything, what would it be?"
Those are questions many of us are afraid to address because it might mean we have to change something. To feel fulfilled it is important to ask questions that will reveal what does really matter to you. If you don't know where to start, pay attention to the news, TV, and web experiences that attract you.
Remember, different lines of questions will take us to different places. "Where do I find the courage to leave a good job to feel fulfilled?" leads one place. "What makes me feel fulfilled? Is there a way I can bring that to my career?" leads to another. Be honest with yourself, and find a way to reveal the information that will help you make a decision that is fulfilling!
Thanks for watching.
Mark
CS
Toronto
Where do you find and how do you keep motivation and a positive attitude?
I have no shortage of reasons to strive to better myself and my position in life (neither of which I am very happy with) but though I start out full of vigor and good intentions, its not long before I pessimism."
Thanks
Mark Tewksbury: ), Thanks for the question. I can relate. A place to start might be asking yourself: Is what I am striving for really worth the effort? Have I found something that really motivates me? Sometimes we don't follow-through because we haven't found something that we can really commit to.
Even when committed, the initial luster of change and a better life eventually makes way for the daily drudgery required to get there. It is completely normal to get negative at times, but the challenge is to be conscious of when it is happening. By noticing negative thinking that is not useful you can shift it, and put things into a different perspective. Remember, life is dynamic and ongoing.
There will be times when you may feel like you let yourself down, but you can decide in the next moment to get back on track.
Paulette Booth
Kamloops,BC
How do you defeat ageism when trying to find employment? Thanks
Hilary LaBrash
Saskatoon
How do I obtain the disapline to train hard
j, weathetrston
toronto
what is the best way to loose belly fat, i run 1hr 4 times a week, i eat well, salads, lean meet/chicken and plenty of veges, but the belly fat remains
steve
newfoundland
Hi mark,
Im a university student and i have a problem you might be able to help me with. I receive funding to go to school where i work very hard and love what I do. When school breaks for the summer i have to get a summer job which forces me to spend a huge amount of time away from what i love to do. year after year this causes me extreme anxiety. How can i break free from this cycle and avoid working menial jobs forever?
Mark Tewksbury: Steve, Thanks for the question. First, it is great to hear that you have found something that you care about. Is there a way that you can combine your passion for what you are studying with a way to earn income in the summer? You might need to get creative, but how can you take some of the qualities you love about your time at school and make some money doing that?
Mienchou
GTA
Mark,
Can you recommend a local private "life coach"?
Thanks,
MIENCHOU
Tina
Hello Mark,
I admire your courage to excel everything you do in life. How do you keep going during emotional situations and motivate yourself in difficult times?
Thank you for sharing!
Tina
Arial
Dear Mr. Tewksbury,
I am a big fan of yours and find your teaching practical and realistic comparing to most of the self-improvement out there.
I have always strived to be the best I can; however, sometimes I find it difficult seeing results when striving for excellence in every area in one's life. For example, sometimes giving 100% professionally could sacrifice other areas such as relationships. How do you balance yourself when wanting to succeed in mostly every area in life?
Thank you and hope we'll see more of you!
Ross Stretton
Heard Mark on CFRB radio interview lately and Iam a past comp. swimmer, now in law enforcement and happen to go through the same life experiences Mark has gone through. Iam openly gay at work. Wish to chat with Mark. Do I have an opportunity to have his personal email address? You have mine.
Thanks. Ross cell phone 1-905-327-1775
Suzanne Leblanc
Hello,
I have lost my book "Visions of Excellence" due to a water damage I had in my home. As that book was very precious to me, I have written Mr. Tewksbury an e-mail last summer asking him if it could be possible to buy one directly from him as the book is no longer in print. I know that sometimes authors keep many copies of their books.
Could you please kindly redirect my question to him? Many thanks in advance.
Best regards,
Suzanne Leblanc