| Severe emotional distress Vialard, whose parents emigrated
from South America, says he feels he can identify with people adjusting
to a foreign land. When he first started in settlement services,
Vialard was a counsellor to many Latin American immigrants.
"I remember walking on the street downtown with this one family
and the little boy said he had to go to the bathroom and he couldn't
hold it in anymore. His mother told him to go off to the side and
pee against the building," laughs Vialard. "I had to tell them that
it wasn't something you should do here."
Vialard emphasizes that his counsellors deal mostly in referrals:
how to apply for a driver's licence, where to go to school and how
to find employment services. While they are not mental health counsellors,
they deal with many people suffering from post-traumatic stress
disorder or severe emotional distress.
Vialard says other issues start to emerge when refugees have been
in the country for four to six months, after they have dealt with
"bread-and-butter" issues such as housing and money.
"We had one woman who, shortly after moving into her apartment,
said she thought her milk was being poisoned and didn't want to
feed her kids the milk. Then she said there were ghosts in the building."
Vialard says counsellors will call in child and family services
to investigate such problems and then try to get help for the person,
sometimes sending them to the NEEDS Centre for War-Affected Families.
"It's almost a given with the population we're dealing with. Many
of the people have been tortured, raped or abused or they witnessed
it," points out Vialard. "I think witnessing is sometimes worse."
Vialard says his staff go through life's ups and downs with the
refugees they serve. They are there to see them through deaths,
terminal illnesses, divorces, the birth of babies and sometimes,
standing in as best man or maid of honour at weddings. He says counsellors
become an integral part of a refugee's life for up to three years.
Vialard says the counsellors also get a few lessons of their own.
They end up with a greater understanding of Canadian life because
they have to teach newcomers how to navigate the system.
"I think its one of the best jobs in the world," says Vialard.
"We offer a lot of hope. We take in people who have lost all humanity
and when they see us, they are very grateful with what they get
here. I just happen to be in a position to get personally thanked
for doing my job."
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