Several people have asked me if writing this book has given me some closure. That idea is seeing a lot of traffic these days--as if we all have too many doors open, and we need to close things up so they won't distract us or impede our progress.
I suppose I write because I don't believe in closure. I write to open things up--memories, ideas, beliefs, sensations. Writing helps me bring my fears into the open and give them the respect they deserve. Writing helps me revel in all that I love. Life is wildly rich and unpredictable, and I think my task is to take in as much as I can, to be as alive as possible, and to support the people around me as they do the same thing.
Many of us have lost babies--more than you might imagine. We are the unmarked, but we have rooms in us that are filled to bursting with dreams and ache and beauty. Those rooms scare people--they scare us too--because they carry the imprint of such terrible pain, but they are places of richness too. In writing this story, I am reaching back to my younger self in her devastation, and reassuring her that there is life ahead of her, there is challenge and passion and courage and joy. When she has air in her lungs again, she will realize she has been offered something precious.
Because I am more certain than ever that death has much to offer the living--like life, like love, it's a lesson in mystery. I write to honour that mystery.
Charlene Diehl (Jenny Bisch)
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CBC Weekend Morning Show host Keran Sanders spoke with Charlene Diehl when "Out of Grief, Singing" came out - October, 2010. Here is that interview: