Mila and everyone else on this list condemning the parenting. You are correct, in that there is a lack of sustained parenting but you are not correct in implying that it's somehow the result of a mother and father that do not care about their children. In fact, it's the exact opposite. Let me give some background and explain ...

The third-world countries that these families come from (as did mine) are reminiscent of Canada pre-1970's in terms of their view of women. The ideal woman in these countries is one that has good domestic qualities and not one that is expected to earn an income for their families - that is left for the father. As a result, the men of these countries finish high school, go to college, and become professionals like many in this country. Meanwhile, the women forgo higher education and get married at a young age instead. This is not only the case with Abdinasir's family (his father was a professor back in Somalia) but it's also the same story for *thousands* of other Canadian immigrants (perhaps millions).

Now, after these families come to Canada, the education that the father received is quickly dubbed "foreign" by Canadian employers thus virtually nullifying years of experience and education that sustained these families for years. With zero money, these once-respected men have to make the decision of whether to "upgrade" their education to "Canadian standards" so that they can compete with 22 year-old Suzy Q, neighbour of Mr.XYZ, for an entry-level position at Firm XYZ or earn some income to put food on the table to feed their 3+ children that they brought with them to escape their war-torn country. Each time, they make the obvious decision.

What's next? Well, the father has to take jobs often reserved for Canadian high-school underachievers since the poisonous words "foreign educated" has essentially relegated him to one; regardless of his experience or education. His 20-hour days as a cab-driver helps put a roof over the heads of the family and food on the kitchen table. Meanwhile, with a need to put clothes on her kids back and a table in the kitchen to place the food on, the mother also works. With zero understanding of the English language, and no "foreign education" to ceremoniously call her own, the mother takes jobs that Suzy Q would have laughed at at the age of 14 - minimum wage jobs that shield this woman from interacting with "real" Canadians. Cleaners, custodians, kitchen staff, etc... that start their day by cleaning out your office as you're heading out at 5pm. You know, the women you say thank-you to if you're happy with how your day went or quietly get upset with if they enter your space to clean your garbage on a bad day.

With dad home intermittently 4 hours of the day (to rest), and mom away all night, who takes care of the kids? Who teaches them right from wrong? Who takes them to soccer at 6pm? Who asks them what they learned in school? Who asks them about the friends that they're hanging out with? Who? Nobody.