Resources

• How to Divorce & Not Wreck the Kids: Main
• Dr. Joan Kelly's Top Ten Ways to Protect Your Kids
• How to Talk to Your Kids About Divorce
• Your Interview: Maureen Palmer
• Collaborative Divorce Agreement
• Lionel and Sally's Vision Statement
• About the Producers
• Discuss this film online
• Resources

NEW: Information for Kids

Want to help your child understand what's happening as you separate or divorce?

Take them on a tour of "Changeville," a pioneering on-line resource for children 6 to 11 - whose families are breaking up.
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Discussion

Talk about this film online with other viewers. Visit our discussion board.

Listen Online

The Current interview a couple trying colloborative divorce and the director of How To Divorce and Not Wreck The Kids. Listen to the interview online.

Facts about Divorce in Canada

• According to lawyers in Canada and the U.S., January is the busiest month in the divorce business. And in Britain, January 8th is actually called "D Day" because that's the day when most divorces are initiated.
• In Canada, one in two unions fails, most before the 14-year mark.
• Only 5 percent of couples actually sit down and tell their children they are separating, and what it will mean to them.
• Women initiate approximately two-thirds of separations and divorces.
• Joint Custody, when there are two loving and interested parents, works best for children.

Problems Divorced Kids Face

• More problems with authority figures, their peers and their parents.
• Two times more likely to develop psychological problems like anxiety, depression and self-esteem issues.
• More marijuana and alcohol use, compared to married family children.
• Lack of parental monitoring.
• Divorced kids drop out of school two to three times the rate of married family children.

For suggestions in avoiding these problems read: Dr. Joan Kelly's Top Ten Ways To Protect Your Kid's from the Fallout of a High Conflict Break-up

Divorce Toolkit

Find out what a collaborative divorce participation agreement looks like. This is the document couples and their lawyers sign which sets the tone for collaborating, not litigating.

On the night that Sally and Lionel decided they were going to separate, they sat down together and drafted this statement, which became their guide for their own behavior as they worked through their separation. It's a very good example for other parents.

Download a copy of Dr. Joan Kelly's Tipsheet and her suggestions for talking to kids about divorce.

Shared Parenting Calendar Software

Visit our resource section for more links.