This was a well produced documentary. i admire the brilliance of my Nigerian counterpart and his efforts to showcase this every so sensitive topic that is prevalent among Nigerian-Canadians who seem to have "an identity crisis"

A very nice documentary depicting the truth about religion, culture, love, and Borders. Somewhat similar to what i am going through right now. But Great work guys, Cheers!!!

What has happened since ? this was filmed in 2007 ....

I am a mexican artist living in Brandon, Manitoba since January 2002. i felt deeply touched by the documentary "where I belong" and closely related to his case as an immigrant, I would love to discuss and meet him personaly taking advantage that we live very close to each other. i had a Manitoba Arts council grant "A" in 2005 and a few exhibitions including an important installation in Vancouver last novvember 2007. Please help me to find and contact him. i am able to provide you with my credentials.

I 'm a Nigerian; I kinda understand how our folks feel towards having a non -Nigerian as a spouse. But what I observed is that in the beginning they might be pessimistic about the relationship but later on they would come around and accept the fact that their child happiness comes first. That was an awesome documentary

Fascinating!!! Marriage means so much to us Nigerians. It’s not just a private affair; we marry together, and we live together. Thus, she is “our wife” and not just “your wife”, because we are not just in it for the long hull, but we are also in it together. I hope that many non-Africans will really appreciate the strength in this aspect of our culture, and not be scare of it. Thank you so much Arinze and Tina for sharing your lives with us.

Tina, when I saw you cook with Arinze’s Mum, I told my friend, “She’s passed the first test.”

Thank you for making us proud your movie is nice,but we want to know the out come of the relationship if you did get married to her at last.
thank you.

This documentary had me glued to the T.V. It was well written and well acted. It was a relief to find out that Arinza's parents approved of the relationship ( in spite of the racism which they had suffered here in Canada. It's now up to Arinze to exmine himself and cast all the doubts aside.

I do believe that love can conquer everything and he will not be alone. There are many multicultural relationships which are thriving here in Canada. I believe that the future bodes well for the children of such unions because in this very multi-cultural country they are becoming the norm. In any event, I fully agree with the advice of his father to not allow the opinions of others to keep love unfulfilled.
I am praying that this story hjas a happy ending for both Tina and Arinze. God bless !!

Hello Arinze,

It was nice and encouraging watching your story. I'm glad your parents came around to giving you the support you needed. Thank God for the kind of parents you have, for being open to hearing you and Tina out before extending their blessing. I hope you ask for Tina's hand in marriage the proper way, the "Igbo" way. By God's grace everything will work out for both of you. All the best.

Having just finished reading a book called "The Brain that Changes Itself", I now have a different "take" on what goes on for people who have to adapt to a new culture. Different cultures actually do create different brain patterns, and it is the second generation that has an easier time of it than the unfortunate adults who have to unlearn so much, actually creating new neural pathways in the brain. The way we hold our bodies, the distance we stand from one another, the gestures and tones of voice and expectations in conversation are all programmed early in our lives, and have become "second nature" to us by the time we are adults.

It gives me a lot more admiration for the downright courage of people who come here from a different culture, and manage to stick it out.

I heard Arinze's father, loud and clear, telling his son, in a roundabout way, out of deference for his wife, "For God's sake man, you've found the love of your life!"
If those two can survive the wrenching that went on over the parental visit, they have what it takes to pull together over the long haul.

Their children will be just like the rest of the children of immigrants - more Canadian than those of us whose ancestors were "united Empire Loyalists". Culture really is only one generation deep. I'm glad such fine people are among us.

Is it okay to be of mixed race in Nigeria? I know that there are still parts of Canada where racism is an ugly reality. But we are changing.

I stumbled into this film by accident. I was gripped by the authentic representation of the challenges of a cross cultural relationship. Such expression creates opportunity for healing and growth by stimulating a dialogue that we would rather avoid.

Personally, I feel that cross cultural marriage also presents a cultural battle that many would rather steer clear of.Brave are they that venture there in.You really need to know what you're doing....just like most things anyway!

Does Tina's family approve of her relationship ?
The doc. only portrays his family's view points.
There are many interracial marriages now. It is
not like the movie "Who is coming to dinner?" any
more. A Jewish family friend of mine , whose
daughter went abroad and married a Jewish
man,and I was told the reason being: there are
so few of us. I think it is a personal choice.

I myself am involved in a relationship with a Nigerian man. I feel this documentary was helpful and in a way misleading. Mr Eze's parents seemed very loving and accepting yet often in Nigerian family’s status and colour often outweigh happiness.

I applaud this work although I must note that Mr Eze shows a great deal of immaturity in not standing up for or caring enough for the woman he claims to love to have not mentioned or introduced her any sooner to his parents. My fiancé is actually much more straight forward with his family we've only been together 2 years but I have met all of his family including his very disapproving mother. He has often stood up to his family in regards to our relationship and the fact that our children will be bi-racial has never been a problem for either of us. Raising a child together in both our cultures is very important to both of us.

To a certain extent I feel this documentary gives Nigerian men a bad name. There are many immature players out there but for every man who is irresponsible there are real men who stand up for their women regardless of colour. I wish CBC would air more documentaries on this subject. I think that interracial relationships are often ignored and their children simply absorbed into a “race” to which they only partially belong.

Barack Obama is seen as a black man yet his mother who raised him along with his grand parents are white, Alicia keys is half white, as is Halle Berry, and so was the great cultural icon Bob Marley. These people have grown up and forced to choose one side of themselves due to societies ignorance.

I think it is about time children be allowed to be themselves, this is Canada after all and multiculturalism is as important if not more that hockey, maple syrup, beavers etc etc. Thank you Mr Eze for contributing to the dialogue of a neglected community.

My wife and I watched the documentary last night and enjoyed every second of it. Tina you are the greatest and the most beautiful girl a young man can ask for as a soulmate. Arinze you are wise and methodical. Stay together as you're the symbol of Canadian pluralism. I'm Muslim and was in a similar situation a decade ago and give up my then partner because of family, culture, etc and hugely regret it now. Follow your heart, be honest with one another, and $ and good life will follow suite.

I watched Where I Belong with great interest. If the question is: Can an interracial marriage work? The answer is YES - for the same reason that any marriage can thrive. Each person must be committed to being loving and supportive to their partner and being absolutely devoted to their children. If two people bind themselves to raising their children in a loving, happy, respectful and safe family, nothing else matters. It's that simple. Life is short - if you have the chance to love in this life, do it fearlessly. You will be rewarded beyond your dreams!

And what about the children - what does it mean to be mixed race? I have been in an interracial marriage for 35 years and among our friends, there are many such marriages. Being of mixed race has not been an abostacle for our children and those of our friends. It's just part of who they are, the same way their personalities, talents and interests make them the chiildren we cherish. Two generations ago, a couple might have been born, grown up, married and died in the same community. This does not hold true for our children - they are citizens of the world. It's something to celebrate!

On the subject of family or community 'disapproval', I suggest that if a couple does what ithey feel is right for them (marrying), in time the disapproval of others will disappear. It doesn't matter what other people thinkk - how you live with your partner and children is what is most important.

This must have taken a lot of courage which I must really commend !Granted as an African myself and wrangling with the same identity issues - I am really enlightened !! Thanks for sharing the experience - and I really wanted to know the REAL ending of this story - you two are suited together : ALL THE BEST!!! follow the old mans advice -----"whenever you wake up - thats your morning"